“Play is a very misused adult word. To a child it is a way of life. To an adult it often means unimportant recreational things we do when we are not working.” Jean-Jaques Rousseau
Introduction
As a Learning Mentor working with children in care, I have found play to be a most valuable tool in my work. Children in care come from diverse backgrounds, and their experiences can vary widely. These children may struggle with feelings of abandonment, low self-esteem, and difficulty expressing their emotions. Many children in care have experienced significant trauma, which can affect their ability to trust others and form healthy relationships. They may have also experienced instability and frequent changes in caregivers or placements creating feelings of uncertainty and insecurity. Play and playfulness helps me to connect and engage with a child and attune to their needs. Play is a universal language that we all understand and it allows children to express themselves and helps them to make sense of the world.
The Benefits of Play
Emotional Expression: Through play children can express their feelings in a safe and non-threatening way. Imaginative play, art, or storytelling, help children to explore their emotions and experiences without the pressure of verbal communication. This can be especially important for children who find it difficult to articulate their feelings.
Building Trust and Relationships: Establishing trust is vital for children in care, they may have experienced broken relationships in the past. Engaging in play helps to build rapport and fosters a sense of safety. When caregivers participate in play, it signals to the child that they are supported and valued, which is crucial for developing secure attachments.
Developing Coping Skills: Play provides children with opportunities to navigate challenges and develop problem-solving skills. By engaging in games or role-playing scenarios, children learn to cope with stress and adversity; building resilience that can help them in real-life situations.
Enhancing Social Skills: Play is a natural way for children to learn social skills. Through group play, they can practice cooperation, communication, and empathy. These interactions help children in care develop friendships and a sense of belonging, which is essential for their emotional health.
Promoting Normalcy: For children in care, play can offer a sense of normalcy and joy. Engaging in typical childhood activities allows them to reconnect with the simple pleasures of being a child, even amidst their challenging circumstances. Play can help revisit and fill gaps in their development.
Conclusion
Play can often be viewed as a frivolous activity; however, it is a powerful tool for children especially those in care. It offers opportunities for emotional expression, relationship building and skill development. Being actively present and creating supportive environments, that foster safety and encourage choice, professionals and caregivers can help children navigate their experiences and develop resilience. Whilst play can be described as therapeutic, it is not therapy. Some children will still require the specialist skills of a qualified Play Therapist. Where possible we need to create opportunities to play and help all children to thrive despite their circumstances.
Play is calming, reduces stress and ultimately it is FUN!
